When someone wants to change their anger they first need to recognize what they do, and what they don’t like in someone else. Here are some examples:

• Dirty look
• Moving toward someone in a threatening way
• Getting loud or getting quiet
• Fidgety
• Have to pace
• Have to get away
• Tight jaw
• Clenched fist
• Get hot
• Get cold
• Pressure in neck
• Pressure in chest
• Pressure all over
• Unwanted thoughts
• Upset stomach
• Shakes
• Slamming doors
• Punch things
• Mouth can’t go as fast as the mind
• Silent treatment
• Whining
• Hold anger in then blowup
• Intimidate
• Intellectualize the issue to win
• Complain often
• Short tempered
• Throw things
• I Know Best attitude
• Lie to be right
• Minimize the issue
• Blame others
• Grab
• My way or the highway
• Bring up the past
• Wild card